Mar 2How my traumatic childhood made me burnt out in my 30sThis is an excerpt between me and my therapist (S) paraphrased where my husband is sitting next to me. Me: I need your help. I don’t know what to do during this burnout recovery period. S: You need to redefine meaning of your work. Me: What do you mean? S…Mental Health4 min read
Feb 16, 2021Indonesian GirlsLet’s call her Amy. Amy is a working girl closing in into her 30s. Amy have had boyfriends yet she never had sex. She told people that it was due to her Christian belief. It’s easy enough to believe, she seemed pious. She is always calm and polite. She never…Toxic Masculinity6 min read
Sep 2, 2019Why do I have to celebrate my birthday?“What is it about a birthday that made one has to celebrate?” I started thinking about it as soon as I was back from Kenya, completely exhausted with the week trip. It dawned on me that in less than a week, I have to held my turning-29yo birthday party. My…Birthday4 min read
May 6, 2019Shout “Penis!” to Get a Boyfriend: How I Met MineI have a Swedish friend who used to tell me indecent Swedish words. One of the words was, of course, penis in Swedish (“kuk”). “The penis” is translated as “kuken”, which I thought sounded like a cute Japanese-like word. …Love4 min read
Nov 6, 2018I am deleting Instagram becauseToday I searched a certain product on my phone browser. Later that day I opened my instagram, the product appeared on my feed. So they tapped into my browser history? I thought instagram was different. I did encounter this problem when I had facebook. I can’t trust Facebook-controlled companies anymore…Facebook1 min read
Feb 1, 2018Boobs, Swedish Gyms, and Lena Dunham’s GirlsGrowing up, I thought my boobs were weird. They don’t look like the boobs that appeared on movies, the only reference I had to other boobs. …Women7 min read
May 31, 2017How I Met DepressionAccording to the World Health Organization, an estimated 300 million people around the world are affected by depression. I am one of them. I am fighting depression and anxiety. I realize that the issue of mental health is heavily stigmatized by many people, in spite of their level of education…Depression10 min read